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Parenting My Way




As a 40+-year-old single mom in a blended family, life can often feel like a whirlwind. My days are a delicate balancing act between running a business, nurturing friendships, networking, training, volunteering, and, most importantly, being a mom to my two incredible daughters.

 

It's not always easy, but I wouldn't trade being a mom for anything. Parenting my way means embracing imperfection, prioritizing love, and constantly evolving to meet the needs of my family. Here are five tips that have guided me along the way.

 

Embrace Vulnerability

 

One of the most important lessons I've learned as a mom is that it's okay to show vulnerability. For a long time, I felt the pressure to be perfect, to shield my daughters from any sign of weakness, but I've come to realize that showing them my vulnerabilities is one of the greatest gifts I can give. When they see me struggle, they learn that it's okay to have hard days and that emotions are a natural part of life. By being open about my feelings, I'm teaching them resilience and empathy. We talk about our days, share our highs and lows, and support each other through the ups and downs. This openness has created a bond of trust and understanding that I cherish deeply.

 

Prioritize Quality Time

 

In the hustle and bustle of daily life, it's easy to let quality time with family slip through the cracks, however, I've made it a priority to carve out special moments with my daughters. Whether it's a walk on the beach near my house, a movie night at home, or simply a heart-to-heart conversation over dinner, these moments are non-negotiable. I want my girls to know that no matter how busy life gets, they are my priority. It's not about the quantity of time we spend together but the quality. These shared experiences not only strengthen our bond but also create lasting memories that we will treasure forever.

 

Lead by Example

 

As a business owner, I'm often juggling multiple responsibilities, and there are days when it feels like I'm stretched too thin. But I've found that leading by example is one of the most powerful ways to teach my daughters about dedication, hard work, and integrity. They see me balancing work, volunteering, and family commitments, and they learn the value of perseverance and responsibility. When I succeed, I celebrate with them; when I fail, I own up to it and discuss what I could have done differently. This transparency shows them that it's okay to make mistakes and that growth comes from learning and adapting.

 

Foster Independence

 

Raising strong, independent daughters is one of my greatest goals. I want them to grow up feeling confident in their abilities and comfortable making their own decisions. To foster this independence, I encourage them to take on challenges and support them in pursuing their interests. I involve them in decision-making processes at home, from planning family activities to discussing household responsibilities. This empowers them to take ownership of their choices and helps them develop critical thinking skills. By giving them the space to explore and learn, I'm helping them build the foundation for a successful and fulfilling future.

 

Cultivate a Support Network

 

Parenting, especially as a single mom, can sometimes feel isolating. That's why it's essential to cultivate a strong support network. I've been fortunate to have a circle of friends, family, and fellow moms who provide invaluable support and encouragement. We share advice, lend a listening ear, and help each other navigate the challenges of parenthood. Additionally, involving my daughters in community activities and volunteering has introduced us to a broader network of supportive, like-minded individuals. This sense of community enriches our lives and reminds us that we're not alone.

 

 

Parenting my way means:

 

  • Embracing the beautiful messiness of life,

  • Prioritizing love and connection,

  • Continuously learning,

  • Growing alongside my daughters,

  • Showing up even when it's hard,

  • Celebrating the small victories.

 

I understand that my approach might not be right for everyone, and that's okay. Each family is unique, and what works for one may not work for another. The important thing is to find what resonates with you and your children and to parent with love.

 

 

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